I have a hard time dealing with the incivility that I see all too often in my world. I believe it affects the worldly happiness of us all. I believe it affects the meaning of life as we can find it.
Whether it is incivility between coworkers, in politics, in international relations, indeed, even in families, lack of civility is, to me, a major problem. People cannot even discuss the simplest or the most profound of ideas without naming calling and aspersion-casting. Courtesy has even fled under the onslaught of mean-spirited dialogue. It seems that some prefer to destroy the other person with personal invective and vitriol.
I reserve the possibility of becoming angry. Anger in itself can be used as a tool to put steel into my backbone when that might be needed. I cannot let any adversary simply run over me. I daresay you might feel similarly. Anger need not be destructive when controlled and used as energy behind a motive.
But setting aside anger as a possibility, happiness inside, that you have found as the meaning of life, cannot be well-lived in a place of discourtesy and disrespect. How long do you desire to remain in someone’s company when they are being rude to you.
When you are rude or disrespectful to someone else, he or she will not wish to be in your company long. Courtesy, respect, regard, honor the other person. These grant him or her value. When others feel valued and honored they are much more inclined to hear and understand you. When you are understood you are better able to beam your bliss into your physical world.
A true indication that you have found the meaning of life, which is happiness, is your desire to express or experience this happiness in the world around you. You convey your happiness to your physical world by doing the very best you can to make it as good as possible. You endeavor to raise up your world and the people in it.
The meaning of life is to be happy. To be happy on the inside through connection to Divine Consciousness almost compels you to experience meaning and happiness in your work-a-day world. You just long for opportunities to express yourself through experience. Your every day is about experiencing.
Think about it for just a moment. What is your life all about? Doing things? Raising a family? Achieving goals? Yes, all of that and more. What do we call that? Experience.
Bucket lists are interesting. People make list of things they want to do or places they want to go before they die. That is experiencing people, places, foods, sights, sounds – experiences. In other words, fulfill your life by experiencing.
It is difficult to experience well in an atmosphere of incivility. Try to make your world as civil as you can. I realize you have no control over other people and events. But you do have control over how you live your life. I did not say you have control over what comes into your life. But, again, you do have control over how you will react to your life.
Be civil, so far as is possible. It will enhance your experiencing. Being civil helps you enjoy your life as you honor other people. When other people feel honored, guess what? They will feel more like honoring you.
Courtesy will cultivate your experiencing with significant impact. Experiencing well will help you fulfill the happiness you know inside. Experiencing happiness inside and out is the meaning of life.